Bridge Helped Me Learn a New Language, Build a Career and Find Community

By Daihong Dai

When I arrived in America from China in 1997, my spoken English was very limited. In fact, I found it difficult to even say "thank you" out loud.

I was introduced to two bridge groups in Norman, Oklahoma, where I had moved with only limited English. One was a bridge group run through the Women's Association at the University of Oklahoma, while the other was part of a local Newcomers' Club that helped new residents settle into the community. I played with these groups for around three to four years.

In the beginning, bridge gave me a way to connect with people without needing perfect English. I could bid and play using the language of bridge. While I sat at the table, I listened to conversations around me, gradually improving my understanding of English.

The people I met through bridge were incredibly encouraging. They motivated me to talk more, practise my English and build confidence. I had fun, made friends and learned something new every time I played.

Bridge ended up changing my life in ways I could never have imagined. One of my bridge friends introduced me to a start-up company where I was hired. That opportunity led to a new career and helped me build a life in my adopted country.

In 2013, fate brought me to Prestwick.

While visiting Prestwick Library, I spotted a leaflet for the Ayrshire Bridge Centre. I walked into the bridge centre on a Tuesday afternoon when Doon Bridge Club was playing there and immediately felt welcome. I was paired with a temporary partner and soon became a regular player.

The more I played, the more I loved the club. Everyone was so friendly, kind and supportive. As someone settling into a new country once again, the bridge community helped me feel at home. Through the friendships I made at the club, adapting to life in Scotland became much easier and much more enjoyable.

Today, I am still playing regularly at the Ayrshire Bridge Centre. Seeing friends I've known for years, meeting new people, enjoying a blether over tea and continuing to learn and develop my bridge skills are all things that bring me great happiness.

Looking back, bridge has been so much more than a card game. It has helped me learn a language, build lifelong friendships, develop a career and feel at home in a different part of the world.

Daihong DaiAyrshire Bridge Centre